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Losing someone you love is always tough, but when it's suicide, it hits differently. It's sudden, it's confusing, and it leaves you with a million unanswered questions swirling around in your head. If you know someone who's going through this, you might be wondering how to help. It's hard to know what to say or do, right? Here's the thing: they need your love and support just as much as anyone who's grieving, maybe even more so.
Just Be There
Honestly, the best thing you can do is just show up. Be present. Listen without judgment, offer a shoulder to cry on, and just be there. Sometimes, just having someone to sit with in silence, to share a cup of tea with, or to watch a movie with can be a huge comfort. Let them know you care,and that you're there for them, no matter what.
Life can feel completely overwhelming after a loss. Even simple things can feel impossible. Offer to help with everyday things like cooking, cleaning, or running errands. Maybe offer to pick up their kids from school or take their dog for a walk. These small acts of kindness can make a big difference when someone is struggling to cope.
Avoid Judgment
It's human nature to want to understand why. Our brains try to make sense of things, especially when something terrible happens. But when it comes to suicide, we may never have the answers. And that's okay. The most important thing is to avoid saying anything that sounds like you're judging the person who died or the people left behind. There are no easy answers, and sometimes, there are no answers at all.
Love and Friendship Matter Most
More than anything, let your friend or loved one know you're there for them. Let them vent, cry, share memories, or just talk about their loss. You don't have to have all the answers, and you don't have to try to fix things. Just be a friend, offer your support, and let them know they're not alone in this. Sometimes, just knowing someone cares can make all the difference in the world.
Need More Help?
If you or someone you know is struggling with the aftermath of a suicide, please reach out for help. There are resources available, and you don't have to go through this alone. Here are a few places to start:
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The 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988
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The Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
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The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention: https://afsp.org/
Remember, healing takes time, and everyone grieves differently. Be patient, be kind, and be there.